Just understanding…

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

22 thoughts on “Just understanding…

  1. Pingback: DAY – 14 Just understanding… | Disashi Soul

  2. In a Kosinski book. “Being there”. A gardener told the media. Life is like a garden. Must water, protect and take care of for it to grow. I agree with the logic and thoughts in this blog. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.


  3. Just what I needed to hear today. Yesterday I failed to understand, to have compassion. I was unable to just accept the person for where they are and love them without demanding they change. I will continue to work on this…such an important lesson and so hard to do. Thank you for sharing this with us. I have much respect for Thich Nhat Hanh. hugs, pat


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